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From The Huffington Post and AOL:

The survey, “Sex and the American Mom,” revealed that 34% of these married moms is in the midst of, or has already had, an affair. Think of three married moms you know and ask yourself, “Which one is cheating?”

Another somewhat mind-blowing result of this survey was that 77% of the respondents said they want more sex. That’s more than three quarters of the 30,000 women asked who said they aren’t getting enough.

The survey was done online, so the respondent pool could be a bit biased. I would bet that techno savvy online women are more likely to be having affairs than traditional women who rarely use the computer, much less take sex surveys on them. But, the survey suggests more married women than ever are looking for sex outside of their marriage.

Cheating seems to be a direct result of not getting what you need, be it sex, attention, openness, what have you. If there is a void, and it can be filled by someone else, chances are it will be. Affairs used to almost guarantee a trip to divorce court. Today, however, the “cheatee” might experience a sense of betrayal, but the “cheater” is not necessarily stigmatized socially, and often both agree to at least attempt reconciliation. It has even been viewed as a “wake-up call” — one that can actually save a marriage, with each person expressing a sense of shared blame. As a society, it seems as though we’ve become less judgmental about affairs in general. Maybe we’ve realized how hard marriage is and have simply gotten more realistic. But, maybe the scope of the issue is bigger, and what’s happening is that we’re in the midst of redefining marriage as we have known it.

I’ve posted before about how many women are complaining about a lack of sex drive in their husbands.

he stereotype, of course, is if there’s someone sneaking around in a marriage, it’s the guy. In general, no one is surprised to hear that men cheat on their wives. However, when it comes to wives cheating on their husbands, while not entirely new, it is much more common than we thought.

I do have an issue with one part of the article.

As the Hook-Up Generation grows up and gets married, chances are affairs may even go mainstream. It’s hard for us to believe that this won’t lead to hurt feelings and collateral damage (remember the kids), but maybe that’s because we’re from a different generation.
We understand that the person who lies just outside of the daily grind–the one who’s not figuring out how to pay the mortgage that month; the one who isn’t angry about spending too little time with the kids–can seem like a vacation worth taking–at least once.

This seems like an attack on my generation-ish. Like we put no value in physical affection or the value of a committed relationship. I think this is largely overplayed and almost parodied by the media. Sure, you know many friends who hook up alot. It might be you. However, I think my generation still finds the seriousness of a committed relationship to be compelling. Instead of being prone to cheat, we are just less likely to be committed to a single person. A subtle difference, but an important one in determining our generational morals.

However, what this article suggests is that if you are into older ladies, you might be closer to a hookup than you imagine. Maybe I should drop the legal law clerking, stuck in an office all summer, and find some job as a pool boy.

Many men complain they don’t understand how to interact with women. When they think they are doing something right, the girl doesn’t react like they think they will. A writer for the UK times spent a few weeks taking care of 2 year old niece and figured out that many of the same behaviors women exhibit later in life are seen early in life in a much simpler manner. If you want to understand their mind, look to a young girl. Here is his advice:

As a single man in my mid-thirties, I’ve spent 20 years trying to understand women, with mixed results. It wasn’t until six months ago, however, that I was given a clear insight into how the female mind works.

I learnt more about women in two months than I had gleaned on my own in two decades. This does not mean, by the way, that I think women are like two-year-olds and should be treated as such. I love my niece. I respect my niece. I’d dive on an unexploded grenade for my niece, and not just to amuse her. I would only dive on it if there was real danger of it exploding and hurting her. Women are all individuals and I’m making generalisations, but in the two-year-old Lou-Lou is the undiluted, unaffected essence – the “id” – of womanhood. Here’s what I’ve learnt.

1. Ignore Them
   If I come into a room and bounce up to Lou-Lou like a clown, trying to amuse and entertain, she blanks me completely. It’s as if I don’t exist. If I walk straight past her, however, I guarantee she will call out my name and want to play with me.
2. Bribe Them
   Gifts work. Preferably something noisy or sparkly. With Lou-Lou, that means stuffed animals that sing or sequined hair grips. With grown women, I suppose that equates to, say, cars and jewelery.
3. Compliment Them
   I’ve mistakenly always held that compliments are like diamonds: valuable only for their scarcity. Flood the market and they lose all value. Not so. Lou-Lou poos in her nappy, everyone cheers – as if she just came up with a workable solution to world hunger – and she beams like a lighthouse. The same works with grown women, although, of course, only the general principle applies rather than the specific example given here.
4. Listen to them
   I’ve spent my life trying to preempt what women want. I needn’t have bothered. If I just pay attention, Lou-Lou will tell me exactly what she wants: eat, dance, doll, jump, run, sing, play, read. Then all I have to do is organise it. How much simpler my life would have been if I had listened and acted accordingly.
5. Apologize
   It doesn’t matter what you’ve done. It doesn’t matter if you don’t even know what you’ve done. I might have slighted Lou-Lou by putting the wrong doll in the pram. What seems to you or me like a minor infraction is, to her, on a par with genocide. The best policy is to throw yourself on her mercy and beg forgiveness. But you must sound sincere. You don’t have to be sincere, just sound sincere. This is so elementary, yet how many men ignore this advice?

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You may assume that your cell phone could be tapped. Phone tapping is an old spy theme. However, what you may not realize is how easy it is to do. I ran across an article that describes how easy it is for anyone who can physically touch your phone to listen in on your calls, and even when you aren’t using your phone!

From geeksaresexy.net:

Eavesdropping is easy.  All it takes is a two-minute software install and someone can record your calls and monitor your text messages.  They can even set up systems to be automatically alerted when you dial a certain number, then instantly patched into your conversation.  Anyone who can perform a basic internet search can find the tools and figure out how to do it in no time.

TRACKINg - You don’t have to plant a CIA-style bug to conduct surveillance any more.  A service called World Tracker lets you use data from cell phone towers and GPS systems to pinpoint anyone’s exact whereabouts, any time — as long as they’ve got their phone on them.

All you have to do is log on to the web site and enter the target phone number.  The site sends a single text message to the phone that requires one response for confirmation.  Once the response is sent, you are locked in to their location and can track them step-by-step.  The response is only required the first time the phone is contacted, so you can imagine how easily it could be handled without the phone’s owner even knowing.

LISTENING IN - Take, for example, Flexispy.  The service promises to let you “catch cheating wives or cheating husbands” and even “bug meeting rooms.”  Its tools use a phone’s microphone to let you hear essentially any conversations within earshot.  Once the program is installed, all you have to do is dial a number to tap into the phone’s mic and hear everything going on.  The phone won’t even ring, and its owner will have no idea you are virtually there at his side.

So, if your phone suddenly lights up for no reason, you might want to take a closer look.

Hilarious video from funnyordie.com.

sort of.

NASA is launching a new mission to the moon late this year. They will be sending a satellite to orbit the moon. In order to promote the new launch they are going to send a memory chip into orbit with the names of all the people who enter their name into the form here.

Not the most exciting thing, but I entered my name. Didn’t take much time, so why not?

Hilarious. Sorry for the short posts lately.

I have a final tomorrow in Constitutional law. But I can’t focus on it. Because Sunday the glow in the dark concert is coming to Va Beach. Kanye, Rihanna, NERD, and Lupe Fiasco are going to be performing. Needless to say from the picture I am excited.

NERD, with frontman Pharrell Williams, is from Virginia Beach. So, the crowd will be hyped for them. Also, Sunday is Mother’s Day. With Kanye’s recent loss of his mother, you know this show is going to be extra spicy.

Are you going to be there?

Holy Crap. Flashback to the 90s. The terrible, terrible 90s.

A lot of my friends make fun of my blog. They don’t understand it as a hobby. Or, even if they accept it as a hobby, they think of it as something really nerdy without much value.

I found an article that ran parallel to my understanding of why people do blogs.

Here is the argument as he states on his blog.

Back during the beginning of the Industrial Revolution, people had to leave their rural faming lives behind and move to cities as our economy shifting to manufacturing. People didn’t know quite how to deal with the complete lifestyle change of suddenly living in a dirty city with thousands of other people. So, people began to drink.

Society generally went through a drunken haze for a bit of time. Eventually, they learned how to deal with the shift. In fact, people began to embrace it (or they were young and didn’t know any differently) and see the potentials for good in it. They know how a wide network of people to work with and collaborate with. You could have things like public libraries, schools, etc. Being in a city was an asset.

Now, in more recent society, with standardized work life, we have more time for private social life. For a long time now, we have decided to use that free time for pure leisure. Television became hugely popular. We turn off, relax and become passive absorbers of information. It is the drunken haze of our times.

But, people are starting to wake up and realize that there are benefits to all this free time. We can be productive without it being work. We can contribute in a meaningful way (like the public libraries). That’s why people contribute to wikipedia without reward, that’s why people blog. We can add to the collective knowledge base, and have a great benefit and potential impact.

Here is the worst kept secret in the GOP. McCain has a huge temper. He has been known to outright cuss out other politicians. And he visibly gets angry is someone really rattles him.

The reason you don’t know this is that the Dem candidates are still too busy fighting each other that they haven’t had a chance to attack him yet. It will come with time.

However, I did run across a story that is indicative of McCain’s anger. From the raw story:

In his 1992 Senate bid, McCain was joined on the campaign trail by his wife, Cindy, as well as campaign aide Doug Cole and consultant Wes Gullett. At one point, Cindy playfully twirled McCain’s hair and said, “You’re getting a little thin up there.” McCain’s face reddened, and he responded, “At least I don’t plaster on the makeup like a trollop, you cunt.”

Why didn’t you hear about this? Well, for one it was during his senate campaign. When is the last time you heard anything about a senate campaign unless there is a sex scandal? Also, it was during a small interview with a local paper, and the paper didn’t quite know how to cover the incident, since they aren’t used to large political scandals, and it was a conservative family newspaper.